Elie's Expositions

A bereaved father blogging for catharsis... and for distraction. Accordingly, you'll see a diverse set of topics and posts here, from the affecting to the analytical to the absurd. Something for everyone, but all, at the core, meeting a personal need.

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Thursday, April 03, 2008

Homeward Bound

"Homeward bound
I wish I was
Homeward bound" - Simon and Garfunkel

Today's the day! Ben is coming home today!

He's been learning in Israel since late August, and is coming back for Pesach break - plus a score of appointments and other obligations we squeezed in for him during the upcoming couple of weeks.

We haven't seen him in over seven months. Has it really been that long? What will it be like this afternoon, seeing him again after so much time? How much has must have changed and matured over all this time, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually! But he'll still - will always - be my little boy, albeit a head taller than his old man.

We have some well-meaning (I charitably hope) acquaintances who, when we discussed Ben's plans and how we couldn't wait for this day, responded with varying degrees of disapproval and even scorn. "Why are you 'letting' him come home for Pesach?? How can you deprive him of the 'full Israel experience'??", they would say.

Beyond MYOB, how can I respond to such people? Can they possibly know how difficult, how wrenching it was for us, as bereaved parents, to even allow another child out of our sight, let alone so very far away, in the first place? God willing, may they never understand our world. Or know why the simple, normal possibility of sending a child away for just a little while, and then having him return, is so strange and bittersweet to us.

Welcome back, Ben. We missed you more than we can say, or will ever truly let you know.


At 4/3/08, 4:50 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Enjoy your time w/him. Pesach kasher vesameach and thanks as usual for a great blog.

At 4/3/08, 4:53 PM, Blogger Soccer Dad said...

"A head taller than his old man."

You too!

At 4/3/08, 8:33 PM, Blogger Elie said...

Thanks, anon and David. He made it, safe and sound, and the same old Ben.

At 4/3/08, 11:24 PM, Blogger cruisin-mom said...

elie: enjoy your son. You are brave and wonderful. Thank you for sharing such deep feelings with all of us.

At 4/4/08, 8:32 AM, Blogger Leora said...


Enjoy his visit. Warm regards to Debbie.

At 4/6/08, 3:03 AM, Blogger Jack said...

Beyond MYOB, how can I respond to such people?

A swift kick in the pants might help. I am just saying.

At 4/9/08, 1:08 PM, Blogger Shira Salamone said...

Wow, I must have been even busier at the office and doing Pesach prep at home than I thought--how did I miss this post? What wonderful news! That your Pesach would be kasher goes without saying, but now it'll be sameach, too!

At 4/12/08, 4:45 PM, Blogger Baila said...

Enjoy him, be proud and have a wonderful Pesach.

At 4/15/08, 5:03 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I've just discovered your blog and wanted to say how sorry I feel for your loss. I lost a brother four years ago and can still feel the pain and still see it in my parents' eyes.
Enjoy your time with Ben and don't worry about what other people might say.


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